i think we all know this one person…
my love, this is actually a sign of disordered eating and isn’t your friend trying to make you feel bad! actually this kind of constant self-defeating behavior is a sign your friend actually feels this way about herself and makes a point of saying it because she thinks everyone else looks at her like that as well - sort of like constantly making ugly faces in pictures so people don’t expect you to think you look beautiful, or how you might say “lol look at how gross my hair is right now” - if you make a joke of it, someone else isn’t going to point it out. since three out of four women show disordered eating, this isn’t just some joke!! it’s something you definitely need to be aware of. i know it’s a scary topic but please bear with me while i explain really quickly!
when someone says “i can’t believe how fat i am” they literally mean themselves. part of having this self-image is that you basically think everyone else looks excellent and deserves love but you yourself are a piece of shit. your friend probably looks at you and thinks “i wish i had her hair and her body and her humor why am i like this.” when they eat something they consider “cheat food” - as if eating was some game instead of a nutritional requirement - they feel like they have to justify themselves by saying something like “look what a fatty i am.” particularly if the people they are eating with chose something like a salad. they look at the alternative meal and think “i should have had that much control what a waste i am.” remember all those times someone has commented on your empty plate like “wow! looks like you were hungry”? your friend has internalized every second of that. as for looking at herself in the mirror? 90% of women overestimate their size. She really does think she’s fat! body dsymorphia is a serious serious issue and your friend probably is consumed by the idea that her fat thighs make her look awful in jeans. how do i know this? because at the height of my e.d., i had a thigh gap like a canyon but i stopped wearing pants and switched completely to dresses because i thought they hid my ginormous thighs better. and just as a side note? you can have 27635467854 guys after you but they might all smell like sweat and only want you because they heard you bang like a fairy on acid. when someone with an e.d. says “i will never get a boyfriend” what they mean is “i can never let anyone in because they will discover im a fuckup” or “nobody will ever love me.” it’s very sad ):
i know !!! that this can be a really frustrating person to deal with !! and i’m not tryna diss your comic (i think the art is really pretty!!) !! but it does seem like maybe it’s coming from sort of an unfair place? like your friend was just somehow supposed to magically read your mind and know you were upset by her discussing her weight? maybe!! in the future!! just say “hey, it’s kind of worrying to me that you talk so much about being fat. is there anything bothering you?” communication is so much more effective than just slowly growing to resent someone who was your friend only based on her insecurities. i mean i know it’s annoying - i am pretty curvy and my friends are all ballerinas (some professionally) so if you think you’ve got one friend who complains about weight, let me tell you wow. so i know it’s relateable and stuff but speaking as someone in recovery, i’m kind of afraid that someone with these insecurities will see this and think “oh god my friends all hate me don’t they i am that one friend i’m so annoying” and use it to isolate themselves further? you feel?
if you or someone you know is showing signs of disordered eating please don’t wait until you or they are “skinny enough” for treatment please get help right away!!
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i love you please stay safe!!!
not to push the topic but i mean the reason i’m so scared of what this comic might do to people is just some comments i found like first thing without scrolling far at all:
i feel so bad for this person they literally stopped being friends with people just because they thought they couldn’t talk to their friend about how they felt when their friend called themselves fat?
…. this … was really hurtful??? idk man i get the idea that we shouldn’t say “thigh gaps are pretty” but … :/ i hope nobody ever tells you that your mental health makes you eligible for a role on a child’s cartoon.
ah no!! they cannot!! idk how else to explain this i know it’s hard to understand but like!! it’s literally how they see themselves not figuratively i mean it’s a mental disorder i’m sorry it’s frustrating if you really don’t want to hear it just say “i’d rather not talk about that”!!!
guys also have really shitty self image please don’t pretend like girls are vapid assholes when they’re struggling against something much more serious than whether jeans fit them. you’re missing out on a lot of good friends by doing this please reconsider!!
i know you’re just venting but please if you’re getting upset by what your friend says/does just talk to her about it idk why you would completely close people off when all you have to say is “maybe you should talk to someone else about that kind of stuff, it makes me uncomfortable” like please!! don’t just decide you hate someone when you haven’t even asked them to stop what they’re doing?? idk i just want everyone to be friends !!!